You might be thinking that in the era where there is a surge of love marriages, why are we writing about this? Believe it or not, family pressure on marriage is common in Indian families. The reason behind this enforcement is parent’s mindset. The day a daughter is born in a family, she is considered to be a responsibility #Kisi aur ki amanat. Well, boys may lag behind in this trend but they are also forced to get married at the right age. Arranged marriages in India are leading the trend of love marriages and parents forcing their kids to get married has been there for ages. Getting married at the right time is a social taboo for Indian families.
What is the right time? Why are children forced to arrange marriage? If you start talking on these topics in public you will be considered an insincere person, the one misguiding the others. No doubt that forced marriages lead to several disputes. The matter can even exaggerate to divorce. But the settlement is a very common practice in Indian families. Parents will do whatever it takes to resolve the dispute and despite all the differences and disagreements, be ready for a second marriage. This is the story of almost every family in India. Below listed are certain points throwing light on why parents force their children to arrange marriage.
- Fear of society: Parents have this fear of what people will say. They are more centered towards what kind of opinion their relatives, friends and other people will have if you do love marriage or do not get married at a defined age. There is a downpour of all the emotional dialogues the moment a child introduces someone whom she/he loves and wants to get married.
- Inter-religion marriages not allowed: To be true, Indian parents suffer a heart attack the moment they come to know that their child wants to get married out of the caste. According to them, their social reputation is everything and they will not be able to live if something like this happens.
- Family legacy is everything: You must have heard questions from your parents like, what will happen to the family name, we need a waaris (heir) and many more. The motive behind all these strategic statements is one, to get their children married.
- The right age drama: According to Indian parents, marriage suits at the right age. If you do not marry at that age, you won’t be able to find the right match as if all the prospects will deny getting married to you. For girls, this right age is generally defined as 18-25, and for boys 21-27.
- More concern from other families: There is social pressure on the parents. If their children do not get married at the right age people start questioning. These questions might arise from your daughter/ son having any problem so he might be keeping someone.
For Indian parents, their social status is more important than anything else. You will come across a few percentages of parents who will keep their children’s priority above society. To force their children to marry they will do every kind of drama they can think of or are guided off by their so-called society. And with the advent of technology, they do not have to go to the traditional matchmakers. The Indian matrimony site is enough to do that work.
According to the statistics, enforced marriages result in more divorce cases. The differences and disagreements between the families screw the life of two people both financially and emotionally but this trend is not stopping. Have you faced any kind of situation like this or might have heard about it? We would like to know in the comments below.